In one of my sessions this week I was sharing how I have been blessed with a wonderful granddaughter who is constantly teaching me important lessons about life. Spend any time with toddlers and you quickly come to a realization that they are always on the move, never wanting to stop. They go through each day with more enthusiasm than a grown up can ever imagine and never tire. They coast through their early years often with no real trouble and usually with a smile on their faces.
Children seem to have something about them that we as grownups lost somewhere along the line. They have the ability to forgive quickly, not really worry about things and get frustrated over things, and just enjoy the simple things in life, while never taking them for granted. They never hold grudges and never hold resentments against someone, and if for some strange reason they do, they are playing and interacting with them the next day on the playground.
When Zoie was still in her crib she would jump up and down, screaming with happiness and great big smile on her face. I often wondered what she was smiling and happy about? Was it her birthday? Was it Christmas? Were her parents taking her on vacation to Disney??
The answer to those questions is No… It was not their birthday, nor was it Christmas and they were not taking her to Disney… She was just excited about the dawning of a new day. She was happy to embrace a new day and could not wait to start it! That is where I started to think…
Why can’t adults behave like this?
When did we lose this zest for life?
Can we get it back and keep it?
Too many times as adults, we forget how to live our lives happily and the days seem to slip on by. Sometimes people tend to mope around, sadly to say, over a variety of things that are out of their control like the weather, or something that happened to them in the past, or even something as silly as a real estate transaction that fell apart. I see people living not just one day like this, but many. They do not know that they cannot get that day or days back… Ever! They repeatedly sob and sulk and in the interim, try to bring others to their level.
We are not on this earth to be miserable. We are on it for reasons: To take each day and make the best out of it. To face new challenges and grow from them. To spill over our joy and happiness in the event that someone else will be infected by it. Like the children that are on this planet, we need to seize the day. We are not on this earth for infinity, but only for a short time.
Today, go back to when you were a child and live without the troublesome melancholy that can seem to swallow you up at times. When you wake in the morning, don’t be grumpy and sad because it is too early. Spring out of that bed and hit the floor running like the children do. Make your whole day a game of sorts, and when tomorrow comes, play it again but this time, do it better.
Life comes at you very fast and when it does, you have to be ready. Before you know it, just like me, your children will have children and your time on this earth will be coming to an end.
I do not know about you, but I always want to have the mental freedom of a child and will play this game of life daily. I will reflect back on my losses and not fret about them, but seek the knowledge I need so it never happens again.
What can I say? I do not want to grow up.
All Star Coaching thought for today: Our yesterdays might have been bad, but our today will be one of the best; and better days are ahead.
Have a child-like day.