One of the things I work hard on in my real estate training is how my people handle disappointment?

A husband got into big trouble after his wedding anniversary. His wife told him the day before, “Tomorrow there better be something in the drive way for me that goes from zero to 200 in 2 seconds.”

The next morning the wife went outside and found a small box in the driveway. She opened it and found a bathroom scale.

All throughout life we all deal with some type of disappointment, whether it is disappointment from our job, family or friends. Disappointment is inevitable. It is not a matter of “if” it comes, it is “when” it comes.

No matter how much disappointment comes into your life, look through it and find the positive lessons within. You are a strong willed individual and you have the ability to overcome any and all obstacles that come into your path of life. You can overcome any form of disappointment and can become a stronger, smarter and a more confident person. I have faith in you and your ability to overcome.

All Star Coaching thought for today: It’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do about what happens to you that matters.

Have a weekend free of disappointments.

BF

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One of the things I hear frequently in my real estate training is people have a hard time getting themselves motivated.

The root word of motivation is motive. The dictionary describes motive as “a reason to act”. I could stop right there and you would have everything you would need to know about motivation.

To be motivated you need a reason to act. A vision, a goal, a dream.

Brian Tracy states that “all successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.”

Do you have a deep desire to achieve something great? Do you want to live a more satisfying life? Can you see yourself being happier and more successful? Do you believe in your own potential and that there is much more to you than meets the eye?

If you are having trouble getting motivated you just need to take the time to reassess your goals and objectives. You need to decide what is your true “reason to act” and stay focused on that instead of the perceived obstacles.

What if your dreams and goals have lost the ability to motivate you? What kills motivation? In a word, it’s routine.

It’s the pattern of living that, like molten lava, slowly crawls into adulthood, covering and consuming our hopes, dreams, and ambitions.

It’s doing the same thing every day because that’s what you’ve always done. It’s a vicious circle of repeating actions and events that leads to nowhere.

The reason nothing was changes in most people’s lives is because they get stuck in a routine. Every day following the same basic outline of living: wake, work, sleep, repeat. They have new ideas, to be sure, but their actions are old.

The sad reality is that most people never realize what is happening until it’s too late. That is the skill and cunning of habit and routine.

It wraps its arms around the minutes and hours of your life, distracting and luring you into autopilot, into a dazed mode of living.

All the while, the little time you have to construct your ideal experiences is being sucked away, stolen.

Routine is a murderer. It kills hope and the chance for change. It blinds us to the truth and with a scalpel cuts away our goals and ideas. Routine puts a hand in the face of growth and improvement, leaving room for nothing but the same.

You need a way out of the routine. Let me ask you a question:

‘If you continue to follow the same patterns, what are the chances you’ll ever experience the things you want to do and ever become the person you hope to be?’

I want you to think about that question again and again. What would your chances be? If things haven’t worked out so far, why would doing the same thing result in anything different?

You know the answer. The chances are none.

This brings us face to face with a truth that most men and women would rather avoid.

It’s relieving to let our goals live in ‘someday.’ We don’t have to worry about never attaining them. Instead, we can put them off and fool ourselves.

‘It will happen someday.’ No, it won’t.

The truth is, if you don’t change your routine now, you will never reach those goals. You will never wake up to a life that matches the one in your mind. Never.

Don’t hide from this. Accept it. Embrace it. Reaffirm your true goals and use them to smash through the chains of routine and drive you into a new way of life, into a new pattern of progress.

All Star Coaching thought for today: Change is not a question of ability…Change is a question of motivation!

Have a motivating day.

BF

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What are you going to do TODAY to put yourself in the path of opportunity?

Are you still working towards your May goals, or have you given up on them already?

Today I want to talk about perseverance. If you were to look up perseverance in a dictionary this is what you would find: “Persisting in or remaining constant to a purpose, idea or task in spite of obstacles.” Remember that definition when you find yourself wanting to quit something.

Almost everyone in the world has a dream. Some people work hard, persevere and make their dreams come true, but many others quit at some point on the path to success, sometimes losing a great deal of energy, time and money they had spent until the minute they quit.

“Many of life’s failures are people who simply did not realize just how close they were to SUCCESS when they gave up.” Thomas Edison

Only one thing could save these people from failure when they were so close to success: perseverance.

Success takes good planning at the beginning, then enthusiasm, determination, will power to apply what’s planned when starting, and persistence along the way to your goals. Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.

Yes, we must keep moving to reach our goals in life. We must do everything possible to grab success before it’s too late.

“The price of success comes from dedication, hard work, and unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen. Nothing worthwhile comes easily. Half hearted attempts don’t produce half hearted results. They produce NOTHING !. . Frank Lloyd Wright”.

But, what are your goals in life? Are they worth the struggle to reach? In addition, to become a successful person you must aim at a target within your abilities. Remember, any goal is not an ideal goal for everyone.

It’s not easy to make a dream come true, sometimes it’s even impossible. You must take your abilities, talents, personality, desires, enthusiasm, circumstances, financial situation, family, and other obligations into consideration when deciding on a goal to reach.

Of course, the problem with the idea that you should quit when something isn’t worth the effort, is that it’s often used as a rationalization. It comes to mind when the effort is difficult, but really is worthwhile. It’s confusing at times, so how do you wisely persevere?

Habit is the most powerful secret of success. Practice making perseverance a habit.

It won’t be easy, in fact you will face many thorns and pitfalls. If you don’t know how to avoid them, and how to use them to your advantage, they would hurt you a lot. But if you persist, you would be able to discover the ways to beat these difficulties.

If you honestly want to succeed, you should NEVER give up. Perseverance will help you make your dreams come true. When you persist on doing everything what it takes, you will eventually reach success.

Thought for today: “When the world says, “Give up,” listen to your inner voice and, “Try it one more time.”

Have a productive day.

BF

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In my real estate training I always ask agents what holds them back from achieving their dreams—or even daring to take them seriously? If you’re like most people, the first answer that comes to mind may be lack—lack of money, lack of opportunity, lack of some other external commodity or circumstance. But the fact is that we’re more often held back by our own thoughts and attitudes than by what we have or own.

It may not be easy to accept this. Despite many stories about how people without money or opportunity have triumphed over major challenges, it may be difficult to believe that positive thinking can change your life. But it can. Positive thinking changes your attitude about yourself and what you can accomplish; frees your intellect and your intuition to find creative ways to fulfill your goals and opens your mind to new possibilities.

You may be among the many people who carry a lot of negative messages around—little voices below the level of your conscious awareness that keep you trapped in unhealthy situations and low-productivity activities. Positive thinking can free us to become whatever we desire to be.

Is it easy to move from a negative frame of mind to a positive one? Yes and no. Yes, because simple techniques like affirmations can be used to change your thinking and therefore your life. No, because developing and using affirmations takes some discipline, effort, and patience.

The most important consideration is that affirmations must be authentic—that is they must reflect the desires and characteristics of the person using them. Research shows that diets work best when they have been designed to meet the individual needs of the person using them. The same thing is true with affirmations. In order to be most useful, affirmations should be authentic: appropriate to the personality, preferences, and purpose of the person using them.

Repetition is the most important step in making affirmations work for you. Repetition programs our minds in the same way that exercise builds muscle. Each affirmation should be repeated at least three times during each day. From our experience with real estate training we know changing your mind takes time, persistence, patience, and practice. It takes working with your affirmation three times a day, day after day. It takes working with focus. It takes working with imagination to involve body, mind, emotion, sensation, soul, and spirit in the process. But if you do this, your belief will gradually change from “I can’t” to “I can,” and things that previously seemed impossible will begin to happen.

All Star Coaching thought for today: You must put positive thoughts in to get positive results out!

Have a productive day.

BF

Bill Fields Learning Systems
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Do you ever wonder why certain individuals seem to achieve so much during their lives? In my real estate training groups it seems people who accomplish success are often viewed as being different, strange or just plain lucky. Some even think they have a secret formula for success.

But if you were to look closely you would find that one thing more than anything else typifies the successful person. And that’s commitment. The ability to commit to accomplishing something and to keep going when others give up.

There’s a famous quotation from Calvin Coolidge, “Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not-nothing is more common. Genius will not-unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not-the world is full of educated derelicts. Commitment and determination alone are omnipotent.”

That’s it. Commitment and determination are the secrets you need to know. The person who focuses his or her mind on what he or she wants, and who with determination stays with it, will most certainly accomplish it.

The trouble with most people, the people who don’t accomplish what they are capable of, is that they don’t know what they want. They try first one thing and then another; or else they’re marking time, waiting for some unknown “opportunity” to come along.

If they would make up their mind as to what they want to accomplish, and commit to it with persistence and determination, they could relax in the certain knowledge that, while it might take a long time, one day they will definitely reach the fulfillment of their dream.

Commitment is the condition that makes dreams come true. If a person persists long enough, he or she must and will become qualified for that which he or she seeks. Now, talent will help, as will genius and common sense, the more you have working for you, the better. But the fact remains that a person who lacks talent, genius and even education can still go where he or she wants to go-if he or she makes a commitment to get there.

I think the real reason more people don’t reach the level of success they desire is that they don’t know what causes success. They think it’s difficult and complicated and involves magic or luck. So, as a result, they don’t make a commitment and don’t try hard enough to do what they are capable of doing.

It’s possible for a man or woman who knows where he or she is going, and who musters the persistence to get there, to do more in one year than others accomplish in five years and to go further in five years than an average person would do in thirty years.

So, decide where you are going and then decide you are going to make the commitment to get there. You deserve the rewards that are waiting for you.

Real estate training thought for today: Commit today to live up to your potential and you will soon reap the rewards you desire.

Have a day full of commitment.

BF

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