Real Estate Training from Bill Fields

In one of my sessions this week I was sharing how I have been blessed with a wonderful granddaughter who is constantly teaching me important lessons about life. Spend any time with toddlers and you quickly come to a realization that they are always on the move, never wanting to stop. They go through each day with more enthusiasm than a grown up can ever imagine and never tire. They coast through their early years often with no real trouble and usually with a smile on their faces.

Children seem to have something about them that we as grownups lost somewhere along the line. They have the ability to forgive quickly, not really worry about things and get frustrated over things, and just enjoy the simple things in life, while never taking them for granted. They never hold grudges and never hold resentments against someone, and if for some strange reason they do, they are playing and interacting with them the next day on the playground.

When Zoie was still in her crib she would jump up and down, screaming with happiness and great big smile on her face. I often wondered what she was smiling and happy about? Was it her birthday? Was it Christmas? Were her parents taking her on vacation to Disney??

The answer to those questions is No… It was not their birthday, nor was it Christmas and they were not taking her to Disney… She was just excited about the dawning of a new day. She was happy to embrace a new day and could not wait to start it! That is where I started to think…

Why can’t adults behave like this?

When did we lose this zest for life?

Can we get it back and keep it?

Too many times as adults, we forget how to live our lives happily and the days seem to slip on by. Sometimes people tend to mope around, sadly to say, over a variety of things that are out of their control like the weather, or something that happened to them in the past, or even something as silly as a real estate transaction that fell apart. I see people living not just one day like this, but many. They do not know that they cannot get that day or days back… Ever! They repeatedly sob and sulk and in the interim, try to bring others to their level.

We are not on this earth to be miserable. We are on it for reasons: To take each day and make the best out of it. To face new challenges and grow from them. To spill over our joy and happiness in the event that someone else will be infected by it. Like the children that are on this planet, we need to seize the day. We are not on this earth for infinity, but only for a short time.

Today, go back to when you were a child and live without the troublesome melancholy that can seem to swallow you up at times. When you wake in the morning, don’t be grumpy and sad because it is too early. Spring out of that bed and hit the floor running like the children do. Make your whole day a game of sorts, and when tomorrow comes, play it again but this time, do it better.

Life comes at you very fast and when it does, you have to be ready. Before you know it, just like me, your children will have children and your time on this earth will be coming to an end.

I do not know about you, but I always want to have the mental freedom of a child and will play this game of life daily. I will reflect back on my losses and not fret about them, but seek the knowledge I need so it never happens again.

What can I say? I do not want to grow up.

All Star Coaching thought for today: Our yesterdays might have been bad, but our today will be one of the best; and better days are ahead.

Have a child-like day.

BF

One of the most important ingredients for success in business and life is self confidence. To help you develop a stronger sense of self confidence I would like to share with you the Five Steps to Self-confidence from one of the greatest books of all time, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. If you have not read this book, PLEASE do yourself a favor and read this book. If you have already read it, this might be a great time to re-read! (And do yourself a favor and print and post this email!)

The Five Principals of Self Confidence:

1. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life; therefore I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward attainment, and I here and now promise such action.

2. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality; therefore I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture.

3. I know through the power of auto suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it; therefore I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self-confidence.

4. I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.

5. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice; thereforeI will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it effects.

Thought for today: A person is only as big as the measure of their thinking.

If I were only allowed to give only one piece of advice, it would be “never doubt yourself.” 

No matter what people say, no matter what you may think, never doubt yourself. If you believe in yourself, you will succeed.

The simplest thing in the world is to beat yourself up because you made a mistake, then to give up and say, “I’m no good.” It is more difficult to believe in yourself and continue to move forward in life. The greatest error is to stop believing in you.

The biggest disappointments usually occur from a lack of faith in yourself, from a belief that that failure is your lot in life.  A feeling of self-doubt builds up every time you make a mistake or fail to accomplish a task, and with every successive blunder, the uncertainty grows stronger until you doubt your ability to do anything right.

Accept that being human means that you are going to have setbacks that will make you doubt your self-worth. That’s okay.  The good news is that you have more strength than your realize, there is more fight that flight within every one of us, and you have far more potential than you could call forth or dream of being possible.

You possess your own unique talents and abilities. There are activities you can do brilliantly that others cannot and vice versa. These are the activities that will allow you to reach your true potential and live a fulfilling life.

Believing in yourself does not represent ego. It represents self-confidence in your ability to do a good job.

Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results.

Believe in yourself despite setbacks, despite seemingly immovable obstacles, despite perceived failures, despite pain and sacrifice, and eventually your dreams will come true, and you will find that your biggest problems are behind you.

Thought for today: “When people believe in themselves, they have the first secret of success.” Norman Vincent Peale

Happy April Fool’s Day! Don’t fall for any April Fools jokes today!

Have you started to implement the changes to your second quarter 2013 business plan?

Achieving our goals for 2013 is going to be more difficult than most people realize. We may say we have a burning desire to see changes in our lives–less stress, a healthier lifestyle, more money in the bank account–but actually implementing those changes involves much more than merely motivation (though that’s necessary as well)! If you think you have the right motivation, you still have to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

How can you reach your major goals and most ambitious dreams without burning out and losing motivation in the process? How can you get where you want to be when it’s difficult to maintain a new habit for more than a week or two? The secret lies with breaking large goals into smaller ones! This keeps each step do-able and allows you to reward your progress along the way. This is also the secret to reaching several goals at once; you have enough energy to meet several small goals in the same time frame, and work toward achieving large goals in multiple areas of your life. When breaking down goals, consider these steps:

• First, find the large goals that you      want to meet. Then, look at each step it would take to get there, does      your current plan need major change or do your plans just need a minor      adjustment.
• Next, break those changes      or adjustments into simple steps, if possible. Keep dividing the steps      until you create small goals that can be achieved in a month or so–or      even a week. (Some people like to have a goal for each day!)
• Work on maintaining the right      difficulty level. If the goals are too small and easy, you won’t feel      challenged and may lose motivation; feel free to increase their      difficulty. If you find that your goals are too difficult, give yourself      permission to set easier goals before you lose confidence, burn out and      give up. Setting the right pace is an important part of the process.
• Write it down! You must      constantly reflect upon and clarify your goals. You have to see it      before you can achieve it!
• Don’t hang out with an easy crowd.      Surround yourself with other goal oriented people and see what they are      doing to work towards their goals.
• Have fun! Achieving goals and living      up to your potential should be a fun, and invigorating experience. Enjoy      it!

Thought for today: You can have anything you want if you can help enough other people get what they want!

When you think about children of the toddler age, or are blessed to experience them yourself, you come to a realization that they are always on the move, never wanting to stop. They go through each day with more enthusiasm than a grown up can ever imagine and never tire. They coast through their early years often with no real trouble and usually with a smile on their faces.

Children seem to have something about them that we as grownups lost somewhere along the line. They have the ability to forgive quickly, not really worry about things and get frustrated over things, and just enjoy the simple things in life, while never taking them for granted. They never hold grudges and never hold resentments against someone, and if for some strange reason they do, they are playing and interacting with them the next day on the playground.

Why can’t adults behave like this?

When did we lose this zest for life?

Can we get it back and keep it?

Too many times as adults, we forget how to live our lives happily and the days seem to slip on by. Sometimes people tend to mope around, sadly to say, over a variety of things that are out of their control like the weather, or something that happened to them in the past, or even something as silly as someone talking about them at the office. Sometimes, people live not just one day like this, but many. They do not know that they cannot get that day or days back… Ever! They repeatedly sob and sulk and in the interim, try to bring others to their level.

We are not on this earth to be miserable. We are on it for reasons: To take each day and make the best out of it. To face new challenges and grow from them. To spill over our joy and happiness in the event that someone else will be infected by it.

We and our emotions are contagious to the people that surround us, be it strangers or loved ones. Like the children that are on this planet, we need to seize the day. We are not on this earth for infinity, but only for a short time.

Today, go back to when you were a child and live without the troublesome melancholy that can seem to swallow you up at times. When you wake in the morning, don’t be grumpy and sad because it is too early. Spring out of that bed and hit the floor running like the children do. Make your whole day a game of sorts, and when tomorrow comes, play it again but this time, do it better.

Life comes at you very fast and when it does, you have to be ready. Before you know it, your children will have children and your time on this earth will be coming to an end.

I do not know about you, but I always want to have the mental freedom of a child and will play this game of life daily. I will reflect back on my losses and not fret about them, but seek the knowledge I need so it never happens again.

What can I say? I do not want to grow up.